Monday, October 24, 2011

Lies and secret babies

I had to send my maid back yesterday. After 2 wonderful months of having someone help me around the house with the housework so I could spend more time with the kids, tragedy struck. I found out that she was almost 6 months pregnant. Unbelievable! Seems that when she came to work for us, she was already 3 months pregnant but for some unfathomable reason, she thought that it would not be detected. 

It is true what they say, you can never see something if your brain does not think it. The thought of someone hiding a pregnancy never crossed my mind and therefore I was totally blindsided. It was quite a shock to me when the FOMEMA panel approved doctor called me into her clinic to inform me.

There were no big fireworks (though I was pretty upset- mostly because of the betrayal and the thought of having to do everything by myself again but all tears were shed alone- I refused to cry or get angry in front of her), I did not quiz her as to why she knowingly came here even though she was with child or why she was begging me not to tell her family back home. Why and how she became pregnant is none of my business, that is between her, her family and Allah. 

My parents were even more forgiving than me. My father said, we have to just accept this unfortunate news as fate. There was no point in being angry, despite the substantial amount of money we had spent. He also reminded me that people in poverty can do such things as acts of desperation and we cannot judge her since we are fortunate enough not to be in her situation.

She was a hard-worker and her help was invaluable. For this, I am very sad to lose her. However, I had no choice but to send her back immediately since FOMEMA would never approve a pregnant maid and I could not risk anything happen to her or her unborn child while under my roof. 

So for now, it will just be us again. Ya Allah give me strength to do the best I can for my children. Amin.

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sebak baca posting ni. berat mata memandang, berat lagi bahu memikul. stay strong, supermom, Allah has other plans for you!
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1 reply · active 700 weeks ago
InsyaAllah. Not realy the update I wanted to give you.
Oh My! Must have been a shock!
She most likely didn't tell because she knew she wouldn't get her job as a maid and she needed the money...
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1 reply · active 700 weeks ago
probably. That's why we didn't get angry (just a bit disappointed).
sedih. non stop trials & tribulations, tapi yang makamnya lebih tinggi, Allah akan uji lebih lagi. Subhanallah!
1 reply · active 700 weeks ago
Maybe, dunno. Hopefully. Perhaps it is to compensate some past wrongs.
Just to share something,

When things do not go exactly the way we wanted, when we do not achieve what we have tried so hard to or when we feel so let down by others then always know that for as long as we have faith & trust in the Almighty, He definitely has something better in store for us, has saved us from a calamity or disaster that would have been in our path or has elevated our status through surrendering to His Decree.

We are not considered believers until we are pleased with the Decisions of the Almighty. This will save us from much anxiety & depression. Try your best & leave the rest to Him.

~ Mufti Ismail Menk
1 reply · active 700 weeks ago
Insyaallah. Thank you for sharing.

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salute with your patience, not getting angry with her. yep, marah pun tak ke mana. stay strong dayah. setiap yang berlaku pasti ada hikmahnya.

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